tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post1711671647266248258..comments2023-09-30T11:54:59.095+02:00Comments on Ideas and Opinions: Parents - What do we owe them?Kleopatrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-62978615063350584902013-03-16T05:44:34.478+01:002013-03-16T05:44:34.478+01:00Hello, I enjoy reading through your article.
I wan...Hello, I enjoy reading through your article.<br />I wanted to write a little comment to support you.<br /><br /><br />Stop by my web page; <a href="http://www.Hellodir.com/new/user_detail.php?u=theowoode" rel="nofollow">legal Amphetamines</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-6835032132888888522012-09-27T23:04:35.232+02:002012-09-27T23:04:35.232+02:00I am so happy that this article made you feel bett...I am so happy that this article made you feel better, that's more than I could have hoped for!<br /><br />As mentioned in my post, sadly parents do not always know what is best for their children, although they often say so... And then proclaim their parent title, as you said... Don't let them get you down.<br /><br />Thank you a lot! I am really happy it helped!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-51647649855384917762012-09-27T20:07:35.354+02:002012-09-27T20:07:35.354+02:00I really appreciate you for writing this article.....I really appreciate you for writing this article....somehow kind of makes me feel better in a way.<br /><br />Actually I am not able to see eye to eye with my parent's illogical decisions right now.....as much as they know it doesn't sound right but they shut me up by proclaiming the parent title...I do love them but I wish they see reason in what they are doing...I know it sounds vague but their deal is really a long story.<br /><br />Well all I am guess I am saying right now is thanks for the post!In my situation right now...trust me this really helps :3Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03262645843048919296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-24377416491264069462012-09-26T20:16:41.203+02:002012-09-26T20:16:41.203+02:00You're right, often parents do not understand ...You're right, often parents do not understand their children's problems. They might not discover the scars, but too often they are responsible for the wound that caused it. I am not sure whether they completely realize what they do to their children.<br />Thank you for your comment!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-40670887551080959552012-09-26T15:11:22.929+02:002012-09-26T15:11:22.929+02:00Agree with you!!! Not all parents understand their...Agree with you!!! Not all parents understand their children. It takes a lot of risk and courage to openly discuss personal problems with your kids. And most parents either ignore this or pretend to understand their kid's problems. But, some deep scars lie beneath, which they fail to discover. Even though they are parents, that does not mean whatever they do or say, is always correct. It's important to make them realize of their mistakesEpsitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14105211901664510585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-44222635608856064682012-09-26T09:49:56.887+02:002012-09-26T09:49:56.887+02:00I agree with you that in your case it is better no...I agree with you that in your case it is better not to have a relationship with this parent. I can relate to this very much, I share most of those experiences.<br /><br />I am also trying to keep in contact by phone and it even works but due to complex financial reasons I have no other choice than living in my mother's house again about 3 months a year, in March and in August/September, that is during semester break and it makes me remember the old times very much. But I am trying to find another way.<br /><br />It is still difficult to cut the ties permanently.<br /><br />Thank you a lot for your comment!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-82061229433717133582012-09-26T09:33:15.792+02:002012-09-26T09:33:15.792+02:00It is sad to see these extremes, mothers desperate...It is sad to see these extremes, mothers desperately wishing for children and others just leaving them.<br /><br />True, I often ask myself this question: Why? But I guess I will never find an answer.<br /><br />I tell myself something similar when things get hard and it helps a bit, because there is nothing else we can do. :) It's what I told myself a year ago when I finally moved out and things have become much better since. <br /><br />Thank you!!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-69930268734721161042012-09-26T09:28:54.250+02:002012-09-26T09:28:54.250+02:00Domestic Violence is a serious issue and people ou...Domestic Violence is a serious issue and people ought to take great heed when it comes to continuing to have a relationships with people who commit such crimes against them. I believe that you can respect someone from afar. <br /><br />I have chosen not to have a relationship with my parent because of the physical and emotional abuse I received as a child. I have banned this parent from coming to my house as they have no respect and still feel they can physically attack me as an adult, and have no problems calling me vicious names privately and in public. This parent falsely accuses me on a regular basis, and speaks evil of me constantly to their friends. There is a point in life when you need to protect yourself, so I took control over my own life and said enough is enough. I cut the ties permanently. <br /><br />I no longer see them as a parent, I just see them as someone who gave birth to me. I then tried to keep in contact by phone on a random level but this is fast diminishing because I will not tolerate abuse in a verbal form. I don't owe my parent anything. It's ok to forgive but to continue to put yourself in harm's way is stupid.<br /><br />I say, try your best to get out of the situation otherwise it can end up destroying your entire life in more ways than you can imagine. <br /><br />I'll stop here now, as rambling again.... Nice Post Kleopatra. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-14969990935534054982012-09-26T09:22:57.547+02:002012-09-26T09:22:57.547+02:00I'm sorry your father has never been a part of...I'm sorry your father has never been a part of your life. I will never understand why parents leave their children or how they are even able to abuse them.<br />I know what you are talking about and it is good for your boyfriend that they no longer have contact. I didn't succeed in that yet, but I'm trying to lessen the contact.<br />I agree with you that this is more common than people realize and it's a horrible thing.<br />Thank you for your comment!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-67344294627637288392012-09-26T09:16:05.478+02:002012-09-26T09:16:05.478+02:00I agree with you that it is a learn-as-you-go proc...I agree with you that it is a learn-as-you-go process.<br />I don't know if it is unusual for a parent to not love their child, but I do know there are a lot of cases where people don't care about their children or abuse them and I don't think this is love. <br />Thank you for commenting!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-62616294664228049502012-09-26T09:13:01.034+02:002012-09-26T09:13:01.034+02:00I think blood is often thicker than water, unfortu...I think blood is often thicker than water, unfortunately, because that way we still love those persons and this hurts us even more.<br />Thank you!!Kleopatrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670239124771015678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-20614614983173323732012-09-26T04:00:59.027+02:002012-09-26T04:00:59.027+02:00Ah! 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It is impossible ...Ah! (M)eine kleine Nachtmusik!!<br /><br />It is impossible to speak about humankind and forget its flaws!<br /><br />Oh, I have seen desperate couples wearing off their feet looking for ways to get a little foot with five small toes to tickle and look how they wiggled, they will give their life for the sound of a child laugh!<br /><br />And I had seen those terrible chambers in hospital walls where mothers can leave their children if need be!<br /><br />And I still am seeing the in-between.<br /><br />Family is not our haven per se, it is easier to find a group that want and love their heirs, parents that will stop the spinning of the Earth for a child of them. This seems to be the rule.<br /><br />But rules never are absolute, there are hard souls that can make cry a small tot who does not understand yet why it is crying, and there is tough characters that can be ugly, just because it gives them joy. Also there are ill souls who can be detestable, but they never know why they are so.<br /><br />Sometimes knowing the reasons of those behaviours alleviate the pain of it, but that is not a certainty.<br /><br />The question that remains is: WHY? But is is not the only question we have about us, human, even if it touch our spirit with more pain.<br /><br />I sometimes think it is a lottery, maybe you can get the winning number, or maybe you not.<br /><br />I have no response to this question of yours. Maybe I owe more to my Grands than to my parents, but who know? <br /><br />What I can recognize you is that there are experiences that cannot be forgotten and mark the soul of anyone and forever.<br /><br />I am not a good support for anyone except to myself, and not always, but a long time ago, I learned, when things get hard, to tell me: C'mon dud! let's go ahead! there is no other direction to follow! :) Not much but it usually help!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-39186009291408009482012-09-26T00:05:49.101+02:002012-09-26T00:05:49.101+02:00Unfortunately I think it is more common than peopl...Unfortunately I think it is more common than people who grew up with loving parents realized. Not all parents love their children, and not all "bad" parents are just learning mistakes. My father has never been a part of my life by choice. I saw him maybe once a twice a year, and the man has lived no more than 15 minutes from me since I was two. My boyfriend had super religious parents who abused him horribly. He is much happier now that they no longer have contact. But when he did visit them it effected him so strongly that he was literally sick to his stomach for days before and after visiting them for the stress. jamiessmileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14150972137054126110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-26822134818675190472012-09-25T21:59:38.503+02:002012-09-25T21:59:38.503+02:00Just because people have children it does not auto...Just because people have children it does not automatically turn them into great parents. Like anything else parenting is a learn-as-you-go process. It is unusual for a parent to not love their child. Theresa H Hallhttp://skdd.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5565595409211773785.post-7108104947190351802012-09-25T21:52:24.082+02:002012-09-25T21:52:24.082+02:00I have to agree with you, Kleopatra...blood isn...I have to agree with you, Kleopatra...blood isn't necessarily thicker than water. Thank you for sharing such an honest and introspective post.Helena Fortissimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02038388794311046455noreply@blogger.com